Joey Mekeel: If you don't like it, stop funding it. It seems you are complaining about your own choice. Maybe a talk with your step daughter is in order.
Ronny Nowzari: Wow. You seemed to hit a nerve here. But yes, to some extent weddings are overrated and FAR too expensive.Miss Manners says that the wedding that is appropriate for you is the one you can afford. Someone who can afford to spend $1000 on a dress and never wear it again should have that, and the person who can't shouldn't.But the wedding industry doesn't want you to think that because they make too much money off of you. The bride's parents traditionally pay for the wedding, because historically daughters did not work and needed to be married off in order to be provided for financially. However, modern brides should not automatically expect their parents to pay unless they can afford it. There is no reason why they can't save and pay for it themselves. However, this is NOT womens fault. I spent $200 on! my dress and am having our wedding in our backyard. I designed and printed my own invitations, and there are many more brides on here with enough sense to know its smarter to lay down $15,000 on a house you'll live in the rest of your life than on one day for a wedding. Maybe your step-daughter has no value for money and doesn't care how much she spends because she didn't earn it.There are a lot of factors in these situations and generalizing everyone into one category isn't the answer to your problem. You need to talk to her and give her limits to what she can spend. Perhaps buy her Miss Manners: On Weddings. It is an excellent honest guide to how to properly address different wedding situations, without expecting you to break the bank....Show more
Leontine Kreitz: i really do agree. i think a small wedding would be just perfect, i mean, its not about the money, its about the commitment to your partner
Bob Pucella: Weddings are NOT expensive -- and they are UN! DER-rated. A wedding is a five-minute legal ceremony (and an o! ptional 15-minute religious ceremony) in which a man and a woman make a binding commitment to live together and support one another as husband and wife. The ceremony can be performed in street clothes without any cake or flowers; but commitment is the foundation of social stability and family values!Most couples however prefer to cohabit without commitment, but demanding from their social group all the recognition and privileges of a married couple, until they drift into a pseudo married state.What you are talking about is a wanna-be-celebrity over-the-top show-off of false formality. Yes, that is indeed over-rated and expensive. Bad taste, too; and usually silly. Why are you facilitating it?...Show more
Silvia Stclair: Weddings can be anything BUT expensive. People like to have others do things for them. She can make her own invitations, she can get cheap decorations and what not. I have seen amazing dresses online for $200 max. Some family members can make the cake ! (though I wouldn't though someone in my family can), you can rent a tux for only $100 not buy one for $500, Brides maids dresses...well I don't know, they don't have to be over the top so you can go to JCPenny and get them one for $50, Rehearsal are necessary because you don't need screw ups.Personally, my Prom sucked, and I'll be damned if someone is going to screw up this one day where I can look like gold for a few hours, but I'm not gonna shell out a bunch of money. Some people have planned a wedding with $1000 dollars, by skipping the hair stylist, borrowing the wedding dress and getting married in a backyard (sort of). So there's lots you can do to cut down on coast, but at the same time this is one day and while you shouldn't spend all you have before spending your life with the man, you should also make sure all parties are happy. Ladies like Glamour, so what? But some women are VERY frugal, don't forget that, if it weren't for the women in some cases men would spen! d a fortune on their wedding because mose have no clue about savings. G! ood luck with her wedding. Maybe even ask her fiance' to pitch in, or his parents, or the couple themselves...Show more
Lavelle Viveiros: To each their own. If your step-daughter wants a big wedding, maybe she should pay for it, then it wouldn't be killing your wallet. If you volunteered to pay, you should have set a limit. What about talking to her rather than sterotyping the rest of us? Either way, there are plenty of people who throw weddings themsleves and have weddings they can afford. We are having a wedding we can afford and no, I don't think money grows on trees. Good luck!...Show more
Cherlyn Tefera: I think for some people they are, though I think in general they are good. My wedding will be important because it is the beginning of the marriage. THe marriage is more important though. I have NO intention of spending $1000 on a dress or $700 for a cake. But some people can afford it (meaning not going into debt), and that is their right as long as they a! ren't sacrificing on proper behavior....Show more
Jorge Detlefs: Well thank you very much for the stereotype >:/ That was rude of you. Some of us women are not like that and I don't think it's fair that you criticize people on a generalization. Shame on you. That's your step-daughter's and your wife's fault for "killing" you wallet. You need to grow some cajones and put your damn foot down and say "no."
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